Thursday, 3 October 2013

The Power of Curiosity

Curiosity may have killed the cat but it let the human live a more fulfilling life!

Come to think of it I don't believe that anything awe-strikingly amazing comes forth without curiosity. I do, however believe in the power of purposeful living; accomplishing set tasks. But I have recently come to know that the power of curiosity is thoroughly underused. It can  impact us in several aspects of our lives.

  1. Health: In recent studies have shown that curious people live longer! Look it up if you don't believe me.
  2. Intelligence: Studies have shown that curiosity positively correlates with intelligence. Other studies have indicated that high levels of curiosity in adults are connected to greater analytic ability, problem-solving skills and overall intelligence. All of which suggests that cultivating more curiosity in your daily life is likely to make you smarter.  
  3. Social Relationships: Curious people are highly enthusiastic and energetic which makes for healthy relationships.
  4. Happiness: Developing good relationships and growing as a person are the foundations for a happy life. Both of these factors are also supported by curiosity.
  5. Meaning: When we find a career path that naturally ignites our curiosity we know we are on the right path. The more curiosity you can muster for something, the more likely you are to notice and learn about it,and thus the more interesting and meaningful it will become for you overtime.

To tune into your curiosity: Build on your knowledge,thrive on uncertainty(try new things ), give up your ideas of the way things ought to be and allow them to unfold as they are without judgement, and lastly make dreary moments fun by re-connecting with your playful side.

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You are what you believe yourself to be...

Your belief in yourself, regardless of your upbringing, circumstances and your experiences has shaped you into to who you are today. Who you are is largely determined by how you see yourself. Your belief in yourself dictates all that you are.

They don't say your attitude determines your aptitude for no good reason. For the most part your perception of reality which is intrinsically linked to your attitude in life predisposes ourselves to certain behaviours which align our intentions and actions. When our intentions and actions are misaligned we breed chaos, we cannot function effectively until what is in our hearts is brought forth into every action we do. If your actions and intentions are misaligned then this speaks volumes, it says to the universe that you do not believe in yourself, your capabilities or dreams.

Don't live a life doubting your worth, the possibility of your dreams and the capacity of your intellect. Don't let those thoughts consume you! Be at peace with yourself!

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Healing happens when we bring everything inside us into the light

When we stop judging others and ourselves, our heart begins to open. The way to healing is to learn to love and accept ourselves unconditionally. It means to embrace both our positive and negative sides with love ...Healing happens when we bring everything that we find inside ourselves out into the light.- Swami Dhyan Giten

Healing simply put, is our own energy which overflows from our inner being,  from the inner silence within ourselves. Healing is pure love and love is the strongest force out there.The mere presence of love is in itself healing.

Because healing comes from the silence within, meditation is a catalyst to bring it about. In the silence we are free to discard all our problems, frustrations, fears, anger and sorrow.Through healing we can develop our inner qualities of presence, love, joy, intuition, truth, silence, wisdom, creativity and inner wholeness. Healing is simply a medium for which these inner qualities can be developed.The process of healing connects us to the WHOLE, the divine source.

One can tell when another being has been healed, they emit a profound and noticeable radiance around them, these are the people who always say the right words to lift and inspire us.The words they speak come form the heart -always!

A silent listening with a quality of presence and an accepting attitude creates space for healing to happen.

 To truly bring about healing we need to let go of our ideas of the way things ought to be and allow ourselves to unfold naturally and accept ourselves unconditionally. It is only when we allow ourselves to be, without judgement are we healed.

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Tuesday, 1 October 2013

You are enough! Act like it!

'' To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.''-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Who ever you are is enough! Your worth is not tied to any conditions. Right here, right now who you are is enough.

When we get nestled into the idea that we are enough, that we are taken care of, that we are loved and that the universe is working in our favour we can let go of the outcome and allow ourselves to be pulled by Grace.

This means choosing to live by faith and not by sight. When we know we are in the perfect place right now, we can add value.When we detach from the outcome, but still give our very best, when we allow what wants to emerge to emerge-we step into a kind of flow that is divine in nature.What matters most in the eyes of the divine is flexibility, openness, a desire to serve and deep knowing that what ever we do, which ever path we choose that we will be loved no matter what the end result is.You are enough! Act like it!

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Monday, 30 September 2013


I regret it with every fibre of my existence. I feel the wealth of emotions surging up inside me, swelling up and they burst out into uncontrollable flames. The feeling doesn't subside, or at least it hasn't yet. I feel this every second of everyday. I know it was all my doings but I can not help but wonder if I was not  so stubborn what would life be like now.

They say the pain makes you stronger, that you learn from the most painful experiences but I haven't seen the light of day yet. It's hard to when that person feels so close yet so far....

One thing that I try to remember is that it's in the past and that for matters of the heart sometimes there is no closure and I need to be okay with that.

I  have come to realise that it's my own fault, but  I won't continue to beat myself up for it- which is really hard but I can not be too hard on myself. Seek to learn the lesson behind every mistake you make and learn it !

On the one hand you long to be special to that one person who you hold in such high esteem but you have got to realise that someone really special will easily see what is special in you. If they don't SEE IT then you deserve way better.....even when you may feel like this is heaven ...they are not obligated to feel the same........What once was does not exist anymore and even though it hurts like your innards have been crushed and pulverised by a large Goliath. You need to move on, you need to let it go!

Heart Follower

You should never have to convince someone into loving you


Everything worth having is worth fighting for.

 How much fighting is too much? When do we decide it's time to throw in the towel? Do we fight for someone who is not fighting for us?

Fighting to love someone that's not fighting to love you is a battle not worth having.We all deserve to be loved by someone who doesn't need convincing. At the end of the day, convincing someone to love you is borderline insanity.


Plus you deserve someone who can easily see what is special in you - no strings attached!
You deserve someone who loves you unconditionally.You deserve to have someone who is proud of who you are and what you represent, someone who makes you a priority. YOU DESERVE MORE than a I kinda like you or kinda want you in my life kinda thing. You deserve to be given a definite answer because you deserve someone who is sure of their feelings and won't leave your heart out to dry inevitably, who won't  will leave you hanging and lead you on. You deserve so much more than that! So don't you settle for those half-hearted requests or those one foot in- one foot out kinda people. Go out and get you something worth fighting for!

Heart Follower

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Characteristics of self-actualizers

  1. Problem-centred; Focus on problems outside themselves, other centred.They have a mission in life requiring much energy,their mission is their reason for existence. They are serene, characterised by a lack of worry, and are devoted to duty. Self-actualisers are autonomous; they choose the direction of their lives.They are independent and resourceful. 
  2.  Accept themselves and others as they are
  3. Spontaneity in thought and action; They are willing to take risks and experiment with their lives.They are unrestrained and uninhibited.
  4. They perceive reality efficiently and can tolerate uncertainty;
  5. Unusual sense of humour; Self-actualisers are able to laugh at themselves. Because their sense of humour is non-hostile, they are able to make jokes about others that are not hurtful or spiteful.     
  6. Ability to look at life objectively; Self-actualisers are not easily fooled. They are open-minded and skeptical, willing to consider all ideas, but equally willing to dismiss them if they don't stand up to critical analysis.             
  7. Highly creative; Inborn uniqueness that carries over into everything they do, see the real and true more easily, original, inventive and less inhibited.    
  8. Establish deep satisfying interpersonal relationships with a few people
  9. Capable of deep appreciation of basic life-experience; Every day provides an opportunity to enjoy the good the things that life has to offer. Self-actualisers never tire of seeing. Their enjoyment and appreciation are as intense the twentieth times as they were the first.             
  10. Concerned for the welfare of humanity
  11. Need for privacy; As well as enjoying close relationships with others, self-actualisers enjoy their own company.They enjoy regular solitude. Alone but not lonely, unflappable, retain dignity amid confusion and personal misfortunes, objective. They are self starters, responsible for themselves, own behaviours.      
  12. Resistant to enculturation but not purposely unconventional
  13. Peak experiences; Self-actualisers frequently experience moments of high excitement, ecstasy, harmony and deep meaning.
  14. Democratic attitudes; Able to learn from anyone, humble. Friendly with anyone regardless of class, education,  political belief, race or colour.     
  15. Strong moral/ethical standards

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