Sunday, 26 January 2014

Our deepest insecurities reveal our greatest gifts

When we understand our lives through the lens of our gifts it’s as if we have removed those dusty glasses  and really see stuff for the first time. All of a sudden, things make sense.When we express and embrace every part of our being, we become authentic, we may either be loved or scorned for this because not everyone is comfortable with honesty because of their own perception of how people ''should'' be. When we  see the real picture and not the image we perpetuate, the moving, human story of what matters most to us. We begin to understand that our biggest mistakes, our most self-sabotaging behaviours were simply convulsive, unskilled attempts to express the deepest parts of ourselves.
 Embrace your originality nonetheless. Personally I would rather be who I am and if people choose to accept me cool if not then I honor their inability to handle my truth. It's all good. Many times we don't realise that our deepest insecurities reveal our deepest strengths. For me my deepest insecurity was my sensitivity and my obsessiveness, until I realised that my sensitivity was what allowed me to connect, relate and empathise with  people and my obsessiveness was really me being fiercely passionate about what I am doing. In essence, the moment I stopped believing that I needed fixing, that my behaviours where wrong, I stepped into security. Being secure in myself, knowing that this was not something that needed fixing that being this way was my true strength I begun stepping in to my own skin instead of hiding it. I began embracing my strength as well as the shame it once bore and turned it into my greatest asset.What is your deepest strength?

Heart Follower 


When  we deeply and intimately meet that which we have avoided we open the space for healing and transformation to unfold. What is your intent.....Look at your life and see how you are striving to achieve it. Although striving for something means you have stepped away from the experience of actually having it now. Instead of not wanting to feel pain feel the pain FULLY...breathe into the pain. Breathe into it, stay with the sensation as it comes without trying to change it. Do not resist the experience. The reality is when we realise that who we are is not what we  think, feel or do we discover a wealth of potential within us and the freedom to make new experiences.When we open ourselves to the experience of what is in the moment, when we completely surrender to the discomfort of the experience, we free ourselves.

Being open does not mean allowing your heart to be abused. Openness does not mean we permit the world to tear us down-No! We have  a filter where we take in the good we need and  give out the goodness within us. The positives in life constantly flow through you, you are a vessels for pure potentiality.

Heart Follower

To whom it may concern

This is my very personal  love letter to the universe so that  I can manifest  the man of my dreams.We ought  to get clear on our intentions if we wish to manifest our desires. Here's my list:

Qualities I look for in a man:
  • Generosity (mind, body, spirit )
I believe that love is a two way street, that requires a whole lot of give and take, which means compromise for each person. I believe that for a love to stand the test of time both parties must be generous with themselves in a certain respect. I don't condone either parties be generous with other people and share things that ought to be only shared between people only  in that relationship. But I do value people who are genuinely good, kind hearted and have good intentions, I believe in giving as in volunteering, helping someone who can't help himself, giving what you can when you can.
  • Authenticity (also lends itself to humility & vulnerability )  
I desire someone who is 100% themselves, not requiring input from anyone else to influence who they are. Someone who stands for something. I desire someone who is humble and open with sharing who they are, not someone who plays the victim and blames anyone else for their current situation. I need someone who is confident but not arrogant, someone who is secure in who they are.
  • Beautiful (mind, body &spirit )
I admire someone who sees beauty in the most unlikely of places, someone who is transparent, has integrity and believes that too be beautiful means to be who you really are. I believe that to be beautiful means to be true to you and use this authenticity to impact the lives of others. I want someone who takes care of himself and is self-loving to the point where he can harm no one.
  • Persistent , committed & dedicated 
I love to see someone who has been through a lot and still keeps going. I love someone who commits to the task at hand. I admire people who strive for better things. I love fiercely passionate people, but not workaholics, there is a fine balance that needs be established between work and play. I believe in leaving behind a legacy, expressing every last drop of authentic juices within you.
  • Values growing (Spontaneous and open- minded)
What I value most of all is allowing people to be who they really are, letting them unfold their own myth, people can change well in a sense, in relationships when we support people and encourage them we allow them to become who they really are deep down. I value growing, without growth relationships suffer. A man who values growing hits all my pleasure centres in all aspects of my being. Controlling people and forcing them to suit our own molds puts a damper on our humanity and it's just not loving, what you are essentially loving is your own image you have created in them and not what they really are.

This exactly what I want , admire , desire and value in people. I am ready to receive exactly what I described in my significant other, I will also accept a different flavour, or something better. Your call. Surprise me! Here's to sweet release!

Heart Follower