Saturday, 26 October 2013

The Dynamics of Love

Understanding something as personal and complex as love is surely not an easy thing to do. I have noticed time and time again that there is a huge difference between the ''I care about you'' love and '' I care for you '' or '' I love you'' kind of love. The first only requires that you spend time and offer it in ways that do not create too much discomfort for either parties. This kind of love does not require much of a psychic, emotional or physical efforts. But in the latter there is no need for separation even when you are not physically together you in sync so much it's like that person never left because you have become a part of each other like a limb or brain. Let's pretend your love really was your limb and you got into an accident and had to have it amputated to prevent further infection would  probably go through phantom limb syndrome where you feel the pain of a limb that is no longer there. That's because it is impossible to deny the existence of a love like this once you have it. All the walls you have so carefully built up come down naturally. Without the removing of these walls that is not true love. Love cannot exist until the walls have come down, until there is space made for the psychic, emotional and physical needs needed to build a communion. Love cannot not breed in separateness. Love is wholesome. To remove the walls means we are open to the idea of vulnerability, receptivity and emotional intimacy which is needed in establishing love. When you find it there is just that *instant knowing* or *click*, you guys were meant to meet. Just my humble observations.

Heart Follower

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