Beauty redefinition

We live in a media dominated society, some of our fondest memories involve watching TV which praise the ''ideal'' woman. You know her, she is tall, typically Caucasian , surgically enhanced, blemish free, flowing hair and very thin. Majority of us fail to fit those standards by far. But why? We are part of society and we can choose to eradicate the mold. Why have we allowed ourselves to be outside the box when we created it in the first place? Why do begrudge ourselves of such a wonderful gift. When we can accept, love and hone our unique beauty to better serve ourselves and our purpose. Be authentically true to you is beauty no matter what anyone else has to say about it. Own it now and live as you ought to!

Empowering things to note:

• Beauty should not hurt.
• You are capable of more than being eye candy.
• Your reflection does not define your worth.
• Your body is a vehicle from which your life's purpose is achieved.
• Beauty does not fit in a box or a mold.
• You own your own brand of beauty and you alone define it.

xoxoxo

Heart Follower

Big egos are big shields...

Big egos are big shields for lots of empty space .-Diane Black

As humans we are susceptible to misinterpretations whenever we communicate which will lead to failure in sending the desired message. Egotism is the source of all fault.

We must try to differentiate the ego and our opinions. In doing so we no longer find ourselves vulnerable. One must relinquish the urge to control,the need for approval and the need to judge. Instead follow your bliss. Get in tune with your soul and in doing so you will align your heart, your body and your mind.

xoxoxo
Heart Follower

Operation be-YOU-tiful!

I am going to touch on a topic very near to my heart-BEAUTY. In all honesty I have struggled tremendously to come to terms with it . To realise my own beauty both inside and out.But one thing I dare not do is to wait to be placed into a box of what appears to be the ideal beauty.Its my beauty and therefore I can make a box to fit all of me if I so choose to be placed in a box or perhaps a forest or a vast ocean shall suffice. Many of us women do not feel that we are beautiful. We scrutinise our flaws and turn them into heinous demons. We allow these flaws to take a life of its own and torment us.I am here to tell you it ends here and now. I wish you could see yourself through the eyes of someone else, perhaps then you would see your beauty. Once you realise it you can move people, mountains whatever you so desire. I wish that you could see that you are more than a mere reflection in the mirror, more than that.Way more! Anything you can relate back to you,  anything you believe you are...I am telling you here, now and forever you are way more than that. I dare to start appreciating your assets instead. Lovingly remind yourself  daily of all your assets and focus your energy on your good qualities. For you are already be-YOU-tiful!

xoxoxo

Heart Follower

Beware of resident...

If a man does not keep pace with his companions,

Perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.

Let him step to the music which he hears,

However measured or far away.-Henry David Thoreau

For a LONG time I have felt like an alien, like an outcast and even at times the forgotten one.

But those days are over now.I have seen the light and I will not stray from it.

But let me just reflect on those times...

I remember being pushed aside like my thoughts and feelings didn't matter.

I remember being picked on for all the small things, the obvious things like being over weight, acne you name it.And by the most unlikely people too.

I remember being shut up and told to sit pretty.

I was told maybe if I relaxed my hair I would finally be pretty.

I was told I was nothing and a nobody when I longed for was to be somebody, something more than this, to have someone to call a friend.

I tried it many times, but because of the great wall I had built up no one would come in.

''Beware of resident.'' 

THE SIGN READ.

But honestly something amazing happened to me it came and it hit me, one Thursday night when I was 16. That all this isolation taught me one thing that I can quite capable of motivating myself and that I hear this drumming sound off in the distance(metaphorically speaking) that is undeniable and it has such a unique sound. I am truly grateful for it. And that's nothing to ashamed of !

xoxoxo

Heart Follower

Your task is not to seek for love..

This quote is but a humble and elegantly put reminder that the world is made up of love. Our illusions of the mind and our ego prevent us from tapping into such divine energy from the universe or God, whichever you believe in.By removing said barriers we become one with the divine and most abundance source of energy in the universe. Thus allowing love in. NAMASTE!

xoxoxo
Heart Follower

Let me straddle your mind.........

I know this is a blog primarily about positivity but lest you forget that there are negatives with whatever you may come into contact with. Don't get me wrong positivity is great but don't even let that fool you. We all need some heavy doses of realism and idealism from time to time to shift us back into perspective. In the hopes that we make real, measurable, achievable and concrete goals instead of whimsical ones. Now many of you may begin to think that it is the dreamers will inherit the earth but I am here to tell you that not all of them will. Only those who make positive action steps will.

So you think that you can get away with this? Living a life of mediocrity, being  brushed to the sidelines as nothing more than a mere common man.Dull! Having not taken any calculated risks, living so safely you might as well not lived at all.Calling the state of utopia your permanent residence? No! I dare you to be unlike any other that has gone before you.To stand up tall for what you believe in and never bow to any of these so called masters.I dare you to live fearlessly.To be independent thinkers and doers and by all means do it all passionately.Never allow yourself the hull of a guaranteed existence as apposed to a the ride of a lifetime.

xoxoxo
Heart Follower

You are already complete

You are love! Your soul mate doesn't complete you, you complete you because once you love yourself you are complete.Your soul mate is simply a reflection of the love you have given yourself.

Often we run to others to be our antidote,our saviour to make us complete but the thing is until we realise the love we have for ourselves we can never truly love another.When we love ourselves we understand  the fact that humans are not without fault and we are more accepting of this.Instead of having unrealistic demands of another person we make compromises and allow each other to fall into place as opposed to forcing it.

When someone else completes you they are your ONLY source of happiness and when this is the case whatever goes wrong in our lives we blame them for it and thus we become resentful towards them.A loving relationship should allow you to grow together and not apart.

Loving yourself attracts your ideal mate.One cannot love without unconditional acceptance.So radiate love now!

xoxoxo
Heart Follower

Change

All of life is a series of changes, resisting them will cause sorrow. Allowing all of the changes to occur without much resistance brings about joy. Let things take their natural course always. What is supposed to happen will always find a way to be. But that does not mean you sit around doing nothing about what you wish to happen.Taking no action towards your goals says to the universe that this is not what you really want, so the universe will not grant it. And never be afraid of anything, not even death when you are fearless you can achieve absolutely anything. The world is yours to seize.

xoxoxo
Heart Follower

Worrying...

This is old news, that worrying is just bad for you. It tangles you in a spidery web of negativity and the longer you do it the harder it is to untangle yourself. Why must you torment yourself with such thoughts and feelings leading most often to physical symptoms such as nausea,vomiting,panic attacks etc.

The best way to rid yourself of the worrying bug is to:

• Remain positive and keep a gratitude journal
• Be proactive 
• Delay your negative feelings and thoughts and re-schedule it for later when you have down-time and can analyse it thoroughly.
• Get your facts right ...what are the odds of that happening?.......and even if it did what is the worst that could happen?
• Practise meditation 
• Realise that some things are beyond your realm of control.
• Don't let the little things get to you ...let them go.
• Take it one day at a time.

xoxoxo

Heart Follower

The greatest good...

The only way one can reveal another man to his own riches is through listening to him. As human beings we have this undying need to feel heard and understood. To bring someone the answers they so desire we must forget about all the advice we could offer up in the moment and just listen carefully and sympathetically. Remain present and keep the conversation focused on them. Be interested in what they are telling you by asking meaningful questions...sometimes all one needs is some loving ears to listen and they will discover their own solutions and advice in their own time. After all we know deep down what it is that needs to be done we just need to know we will be supported whilst we do it.



xoxoxo
Heart Follower