Love is only authentic when it gives freedom

'Some birds are not meant to be caged, that's all. Their feathers are too bright, their songs too sweet and wild. So you let them go, or when you open the cage to feed them they somehow fly out past you. And the part of you that knows it was wrong to imprison them in the first place rejoices, but still, the place where you live is that much more drab and empty for their departure.''-Stephen King

True, pure and ever-lasting love not only provides safety but gives unending freedom. Real love does not seek to control. You should not feel the need to search through their facebook page, phones, pockets and what not to feel validated. Once you even have the slightest urge to carry out any of these tasks you already know your relationship is headed for turmoil.

And no honey, I don't care how long or how much you love your boo you are not entitled to their undying and constant affections. You need to allow them the opportunity to surrender their affections to you instead of holding them up at gun point. In doing so you do not juice out all of your partner's energy. Because let's face it ain't nobody got time for that! Having love in your life should be a source of inspiration to carry out your life's work. It is called a love life after all not a stressed out all the time, don't know what is going on life. Let things be ! If things are meant to work out they eventually will at the right time for both of you.

When you truly love someone you trust them enough to give them the freedom of choice to decide their own destiny whether it be with you or not. Because that's what love is! When you give someone that kind of freedom how could they not choose you? When you have bestowed upon them the greatest gift...the ability to remain with you because it is their choice and not because they are held against their will. Its a balancing act, you have got to shower them with love but allow them enough space so that they could fly away from you and trust me when I say they won't ever leave.Once you do it right!


xoxoxo
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